Asking someone to mentor you feels awkward, but done right it's flattering, not burdensome. The key is being specific, respectful of their time, and easy to say yes to. Here's how — with templates.
Start small, not 'will you be my mentor?'
A big open-ended ask is hard to accept. Instead, ask for one specific thing: 'Could I get 20 minutes to ask how you approached X?' A small, concrete request is easy to say yes to and lets the relationship grow naturally.
Be specific about why them
People help when they feel genuinely chosen. 'I admire how you built Y, and I'm facing something similar' shows you've done your homework and aren't mass-asking. Specificity is flattering.
Make it easy and low-pressure
Frequently asked questions
How do I ask someone to mentor me?
Start with a small, specific request, explain why you chose them, and make it easy and low-pressure to say yes.
Should I say 'will you be my mentor?'
Usually not upfront — a specific small ask works better and lets the relationship grow.
What if they say no or don't reply?
Stay gracious; timing varies. You can also get structured mentoring at Kerr University with a free first session.
How do I start?
At Kerr University™ mentoring is always 1-on-1 with Digby R. Kerr, flexible around your schedule, affordably priced, with 24/7 WhatsApp access and free certificate courses included. Book a free 30-minute session.
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